ADULTERY IS NO SIN

ADULTERY IS NO SIN

Moralists and male chauvinists may lower the eye brows and read the complete text before daring to raise the eyebrows again. During the reading try to stop thinking like “I already knew you might say only something disgusting like that”. Without such prejudgements, the message will be clearer.

Adultery may happen among adults. Children are taught to call it sin. Once the children become adults, they realise the truth that adultery is a natural gushing of unsatisfied or suppressed energy that can happen with either sex. It is just natural as blocking the free running river by a dam. The waters are bound to rise and gush out of the available openings. This is the natural tendency of water.

But there is no sin in this natural diversion of gushing energy. Absolutely.

The eye brows…Just keep it down. Just keep reading. May raise afterwards.

The so called civilised society which try to live with single partners for life (at whatever cost) look down upon adultery. Because it is a threat to their accepted lifestyle as well as corrupting the children’s minds. This feeling of the civilised society to the adulterer is also quite understandable. Otherwise there could have a society of swapping partners looking down upon single partner societies, if that was better. But such people do not become a society but a crowd.

Single partner is healthy and more hygienic. No doubts. With all its shortcomings, the Hindu style single partner families still command respect. Because there is an element of sacrifice and discipline in that way of life. Children get more care and attention. They become better citizens. Other types of any partner or multiple partners may claim they enjoy life better with no attached strings.

But even with single partner family societies, adultery may happen. Because the partners may not be happy with each other at all times. And all fingers are not the same size and looks. Horses needed for courses. Horses cannot be replaced with asses and still expect the same result. It is all very complicated to explain !

The specific point of discussion is that adultery can happen due to natural reasons and is not a sin as made out to be. Especially by the priests and religions. Males see female adultery as more sinful than the same by males. This is purely the males’ view. Females naturally have similar views but are suppressed by the males by muscle power and making the females financially dependent. Those females who can not be controlled under either muscle or money power, are scared with a religious weapon that ‘adultery is a sin before God’.

This version of making adultery a sin is what is baseless. Assuming that the God is the creator who creates bodies, God is used to witnessing how babies are made and seeing babies being born naked. So God may not get upset when these babies become adults and lift the clothes for a pee. It is the male’s bearability level that marks the boundaries and makes rules to suit the average male. Not the average female, mind you.

Such rules can be religious or political. Females are game for anything that the males can handle. No more no less. She can fly with Usain bolt and crawl along with a lame husband. It is up to the male to declare his capacity to expand or tolerate. The female actually adjusts to the chosen male’s limitations. But that does not mean she is limited. She is capable of dancing with the most complete male (lets say Krishna as an example) as well as bearing with the lowest male allotted to her. It is thus purely the male’s capability that decides the activities.

Precisely because of this reason, the males find it difficult to explain to females why he wants her movements to be restricted to suit his and still not complain, even if there are better options around. It is like someone who can afford only  dry bread to the wife, because he is lazy and hates work, still wants the wife not to see the neighbour feeding his wife five star meals. At least make a try to give her better meals. She will still bear with him. But blaming her because she points out the more caring neighbour is simply immature.

Lets see it from the female point of view. She is born capable of living with the best male available. She gets some asshole in the due course. He may not match the best male in many respects. Still she adjusts with him as much as possible and shuts her mind to other males even if they are far more desirable. But they are also humans. If she fails at times due to the incapability of the male, then why blame her? Introspection is required by the males. Blaming the females for his own fault is morality?

This freedom of females, however, the males cannot digest. Even if he is a big hearted. Trying to scare females that female adultery is more sinful is childish. If adultery is sin, it is applicable to both sexes equally. As understood, a dissatisfied partner wishing for an appropriate partner is only natural. That the small minded males cannot digest this normal tendency is his limitation.

I am not advocating adultery. Adulterers need not hail me as the leader.

Adultery happens because of dissatisfied partners trying to vent energy and thus become peaceful. This is a biological need and process. Trying to block this natural tendency by rules will only make the energy trying to escape from another weak area. What is required is to understand that such things can happen and the remedy is to make the existing partner attend his lacuna, if any, and rectify it. If he in his egoistic arrogance still refuses to correct himself, then the female cannot be held solely responsible for whatever remedial action she might take to balance herself.

Be big hearted men. No God is watching who is ditching the partners. These are all personal choices according to the likes and dislikes of minds. Different minds have different tastes. The best option is to totally remove all likes and become a Buddha. If that is not practical, then at least understand that it is not a crime to have consensual sex between willing partners.

Imagine. Even rape is accepted by the males. But consensual sex by an ‘owned’ female is termed as sin. Double standards due to sexual jealousy. It is for the males to control their jealousy. As the same is almost impractical, males try to blame the females for all his faults. Is that not the truth?

May raise the eye brows now, if they can be raised, that is.

Silly childish people.